SPOILERS AHEAD! Don't read if you don't want to know parts of the movie, if you don't care, read on!
Each week, if within our budget, my husband and I try to escape our hectic lives for a few hours and get lost by watching a movie at the theater. (usually the cheapest days are tuesdays, only 6 bucks!) Honestly, who doesn't want to save a few bucks, especially on movies because they get costly. This week was no different, given my busy school schedule I figured since this movie raised so many eye brows within it's books that it would be a good blog posting for those of you who are unsure if you want to let your curiosity win or whether let everyone else tell you what to think. I will first and foremost say my opinion is my own, and surely so is everyone else's.
Note: I didn't read the books because I wanted to be completely in the dark about what happens and have no preconceived thoughts since I am indeed a huge book reader and will always (with an exception of a few) think the books will be better.
I'll be honest, this movie isn't for ANYONE under the age of 18. I would've hoped my mom would've told me no even if I begged her to go see this as a teenager. It's rated R for a reason. The reason I bring this up is because I seen a "note to my daughter" type of article on the movie floating around social media and caught my eye so I read it and the lady goes in depth saying how she gave in to the peer pressures of curiosity and watched it and how she regrets it now. If you are a grown adult and you hear talk about this 'love story' but yet you have doubts that you may not like it or even realize what the story is about, why go see it if you're not going to have an open mind? I get that you're curious, but I'm not shocked because I knew from the media and word on the street about what it was going to be about. I don't regret it and yes, I even gave into my curiosity as well. Were only human after all. It just is what it is. Keep reading because isn't my official opinion.
With that being said, lets get down to it. There are give or take 4 to 5 sex scenes if I didn't miscount. You see body parts as far as butts and boobs go, and honestly it didn't really bother me. Maybe it's because I'm grown up and married, naked bodies really don't bother me anymore, verses when I was a terribly insecure preteen. I can handle the whole nature of sexy, I honestly don't think there's anymore rated R movies that go without at least one pair of boobs, a sex scene in general, or a butt shot. So the nudity was fair considering what part of the story was about. It was done very tastefully, the director was on point with the camera angles. Very honest dialogue, I'm not sure what's true to the book, but if the dialogue was a lot like the book, I'll most likely enjoy the book.
Character choices - Now I know a lot of the fans of the book had preconceived ideas of who should be Christian Grey and who should be Anastasia Steele, and trust me I understand. When you're such a big fan of a book, you want casting to be pretty close to what you imagine. Let's get real though lots of talented actors/actresses auditioned for these roles and originally Charlie Hunnam was casted as Christian Grey but dropped out. Everyone especially when it's you're name on it has limits. I feel like he was more of a 'Thor' type of man than a business man, maybe it's the muscles. haha. I'm not sure what 'grey' looks like in everyone else's minds that are a fan of the books, but Jamie Dornan in my head was the meant to be Christian Grey. I'm not so sure I would've liked it if another guy played Grey. He's very likable. I was stunned even when before the movie came out that people were saying Dakota Johnson wasn't even pretty, because she's naturally pretty and especially for the role of Anastasia Steele you want someone naturally pretty who can pull off that innocent girl next door thing. I have to admit I found her to be quite charming. Everyone else was good too! The chemistry between Dornan and Johnson was the kind that you hoped for.
How do I feel about the whole thing? I'll be honest. I enjoyed the movie. Call me what you will for liking it, even judge me, because I know a few of you are. Let me tell you why I liked it. The story I don't in this particular one like to call a 'love story' mainly because it's only one sided, you can tell that Grey cares for Steele but he's a broken man. I feel like a lot of women fall for the wrong types of guys, that or some of us fall in love and the guy has major baggage and we especially how innocent Anastasia was don't really know how to help it, so we do and do and do until we get to that breaking point. I don't want to give major details away, but I will say in the last scene in the 'play room' (and no ladies it's not a room with an xbox) that was her breaking point. I truly believe he should've been man enough to realize he needs to fix himself before he did that. Keep in mind, I have no idea what happens after that last scene. Maybe he does, maybe he will. I'm naturally curious and once I start something I have to finish it, so I'll more than likely watch the next one and read the books.
But, if you're asking me if I think Christian Grey is an abuser and Anastasia is the victim and it's only romanticizing domestic violence then no. I think it's a case of the guy has issues, the girl wanted to be the one to fix him. Throughout the whole movie, she negotiates the 'contract', she doesn't even sign it there are 'unwritten rules', in multiple scenes she tells him to leave, to take her home, that she has to go to Georgia, she doesn't even stay after the negotiation, she slaps his hand off of her leg at dinner with his family, and even in that last scene she gave consent. Love makes us do stupid things, even things that were not proud of, but we don't run and yell fire each time we get it wrong. She is not a victim, he may be '50 shades of fucked up' but it's also just a story. Regardless if it's you're cup of tea, let other people decide for their own if they like it. They are not going to hell because they are curious, and we shouldn't be making grown adults feel bad for liking something that you don't like.
I went into it with an open mind. No preconceived ideas of who I thought the characters should or shouldn't be, how everything should be. I gave it a chance. If only the media would do the same and only say what they have to say and move on from it if they don't then that would be great.
P.S. Let's just take a minute to appreciate the soundtrack. I'm obsessed.
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50 Shades Review.
Friday, January 9, 2015
Why is skinny just as much of a struggle for some girls as overweight is to others? to clarify, I don't pretend to even know the first thing about being overweight and what it feels like. Honestly, I have no idea. However, I do know the struggles I have faced in my almost twenty three years with being a fun sized girl. I've been short (4'11 to be exact) and skinny for as long as I've been breathing. I also should clarify I'm pretty healthy for my age (besides eating some junk food). There are just some things you can't say or do when it comes to a persons body size and although I can't speak on anyone else's behalf, I wanted to bring to light what most petite girls I've encounter go through.
The fact that you got told you're 'so small' no matter how age you get and no matter how much someone sees you, they will tell you that or at least bring it up once.
Now don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining, to many it's a compliment but to other girls it can just be a reminder of them not being able to fit half of the clothes they find that they like in their local mall. Just be mindful that it can get kind of old pretty fast when literally everyone and their mother tells them this.
Telling petite girls to put 'meat on their bones', or 'eat something' or even using 'only dogs love bones' will never be okay.
I grew up with hearing from various people they need to put meat on my bones and others would tell me to eat something countless times. Even if it's said with no disrespect, you should know it is disrespectful. Not to step on anyones toes here, I know a few of you who are reading this are guilty as charged, but it will never be okay. Say for instance, if you were bigger in size than me would it be okay if I told you to 'eat less'? My guess is no. I also have had to deal with a whole group of mean girls in my lifetime. Not just one many. I also see this in my newsfeed sometimes women who have a different body type will use the age old, 'only dogs love bones'. Why would anyone who is 'proud' and 'confident' need to attack other women for their body type. We need to be building each other up, not tearing each other down. Ladies, Men have different ideas of what is beautiful not just one body type, and if one doesn't think you're beautiful the way you are what business do you have being with a guy who doesn't appreciate you for who you are. Own it. Flaunt it. Just be respectful about it. I also think my husband likes me just the way I am if I do say so myself. ;)
The fact that you're cute when you're mad, and nobody takes you seriously.
Sometime's when people, like my husband, picks on me when I'm calling him a butt head, he'll call me cute because I'm feisty with him. That's cute. However, when I am explaining to whomever a very serious manner like about something they said or how it makes me feel, some people don't take me seriously and I don't think it's cute at all. I'm 'too friendly' and judgement of I can't bring the hammer down when need be is clearly a factor I've had to face as well. Just like every blonde isn't dumb, every friendly, petite young girl isn't naive and isn't your welcome mat to step all over.
The fact that you're automatically 'anorexic' because you're a skinny minnie.
Just like 'only dogs want bones' or 'put more meat on your bones' this one is definitely the cake topper of disrespectful. Never under any circumstance call any skinny girl anorexic. Sometimes even if the person is going through something that traumatic, calling attention to in a rude way won't help, if you are concerned for their health talk to them one on one and then go from there to see if you can seek that person help, but DON'T embarrass them about it. If you do call someone anorexic to be mean spirited, then I'm telling you now it's rude and to cut it out.
'They (insert clothing brand/store here) don't cater to bigger women'
There isn't really a argument to know all sizes have their down falls and it's not a competition of how hard this one has over the other, but I can speak behalf of my size. I sometimes am an XXS and I can guarantee you if it's not a 00-Short jeans I can't fit them. Half of the time I will go into the kid section to find a certain item that is popular because I can't fit it at our local rue 21. Not that I expect everything to fit me perfectly, but I recall crying in the fitting room as a younger girl because I couldn't fit into most of the latest clothing craze without it feeling baggy. They might not cater to bigger women, but they certainly do not cater to the smaller women either. I hope they fix it for both of our sizes so we can all can finally be happy and not crying in a fitting room over it.
'Skinny doesn't need to be made over'
I am a huge YouTube watcher and I have some YouTubers I sit to watch their videos in my free time every few days. There is one in particular that I love but there was a vlog about her talking about the Nicki Minaj song, Anaconda, and the lyric in the song is 'f*** them skinny b******' and she goes on to say that skinny girls are already made over because it's always in the magazines and the media and she said let us have lyrics that make us thick girls feel empowered. I realize and understand where she is coming from, but some girls are just naturally skinny and we don't deserve to hear lyrics that tear us down. I'm all for writing good material that people relate to, but I try my best to be respectful of others as well. I don't feel like that song does a good job of that in my own opinion. I don't ask for my size to be commented on, I don't think any size really does, so my point in bringing this up is don't let a song or quote filled with hate make you feel empowered as a person, empower yourself by loving and respecting yourself and loving and respecting others. That's how you get respect as a person because your size is just a part of you and it's not all of you. Other people may have their opinions and be rude to you, but you can't control them, you can only control yourself and how you react towards them. Love yourself.
Bringing this blog to a close, it was not my intention to be little anyone else's daily problems they find within their size, it was only to show people who share the daily annoyance of my size that they are not alone. I'm rooting for all sizes to be able to live worry free and equally. I hope y'all have an amazing weekend & week!
XO
The fact that you got told you're 'so small' no matter how age you get and no matter how much someone sees you, they will tell you that or at least bring it up once.
Now don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining, to many it's a compliment but to other girls it can just be a reminder of them not being able to fit half of the clothes they find that they like in their local mall. Just be mindful that it can get kind of old pretty fast when literally everyone and their mother tells them this.
Telling petite girls to put 'meat on their bones', or 'eat something' or even using 'only dogs love bones' will never be okay.
I grew up with hearing from various people they need to put meat on my bones and others would tell me to eat something countless times. Even if it's said with no disrespect, you should know it is disrespectful. Not to step on anyones toes here, I know a few of you who are reading this are guilty as charged, but it will never be okay. Say for instance, if you were bigger in size than me would it be okay if I told you to 'eat less'? My guess is no. I also have had to deal with a whole group of mean girls in my lifetime. Not just one many. I also see this in my newsfeed sometimes women who have a different body type will use the age old, 'only dogs love bones'. Why would anyone who is 'proud' and 'confident' need to attack other women for their body type. We need to be building each other up, not tearing each other down. Ladies, Men have different ideas of what is beautiful not just one body type, and if one doesn't think you're beautiful the way you are what business do you have being with a guy who doesn't appreciate you for who you are. Own it. Flaunt it. Just be respectful about it. I also think my husband likes me just the way I am if I do say so myself. ;)
The fact that you're cute when you're mad, and nobody takes you seriously.
Sometime's when people, like my husband, picks on me when I'm calling him a butt head, he'll call me cute because I'm feisty with him. That's cute. However, when I am explaining to whomever a very serious manner like about something they said or how it makes me feel, some people don't take me seriously and I don't think it's cute at all. I'm 'too friendly' and judgement of I can't bring the hammer down when need be is clearly a factor I've had to face as well. Just like every blonde isn't dumb, every friendly, petite young girl isn't naive and isn't your welcome mat to step all over.
The fact that you're automatically 'anorexic' because you're a skinny minnie.
Just like 'only dogs want bones' or 'put more meat on your bones' this one is definitely the cake topper of disrespectful. Never under any circumstance call any skinny girl anorexic. Sometimes even if the person is going through something that traumatic, calling attention to in a rude way won't help, if you are concerned for their health talk to them one on one and then go from there to see if you can seek that person help, but DON'T embarrass them about it. If you do call someone anorexic to be mean spirited, then I'm telling you now it's rude and to cut it out.
'They (insert clothing brand/store here) don't cater to bigger women'
There isn't really a argument to know all sizes have their down falls and it's not a competition of how hard this one has over the other, but I can speak behalf of my size. I sometimes am an XXS and I can guarantee you if it's not a 00-Short jeans I can't fit them. Half of the time I will go into the kid section to find a certain item that is popular because I can't fit it at our local rue 21. Not that I expect everything to fit me perfectly, but I recall crying in the fitting room as a younger girl because I couldn't fit into most of the latest clothing craze without it feeling baggy. They might not cater to bigger women, but they certainly do not cater to the smaller women either. I hope they fix it for both of our sizes so we can all can finally be happy and not crying in a fitting room over it.
'Skinny doesn't need to be made over'
I am a huge YouTube watcher and I have some YouTubers I sit to watch their videos in my free time every few days. There is one in particular that I love but there was a vlog about her talking about the Nicki Minaj song, Anaconda, and the lyric in the song is 'f*** them skinny b******' and she goes on to say that skinny girls are already made over because it's always in the magazines and the media and she said let us have lyrics that make us thick girls feel empowered. I realize and understand where she is coming from, but some girls are just naturally skinny and we don't deserve to hear lyrics that tear us down. I'm all for writing good material that people relate to, but I try my best to be respectful of others as well. I don't feel like that song does a good job of that in my own opinion. I don't ask for my size to be commented on, I don't think any size really does, so my point in bringing this up is don't let a song or quote filled with hate make you feel empowered as a person, empower yourself by loving and respecting yourself and loving and respecting others. That's how you get respect as a person because your size is just a part of you and it's not all of you. Other people may have their opinions and be rude to you, but you can't control them, you can only control yourself and how you react towards them. Love yourself.
Bringing this blog to a close, it was not my intention to be little anyone else's daily problems they find within their size, it was only to show people who share the daily annoyance of my size that they are not alone. I'm rooting for all sizes to be able to live worry free and equally. I hope y'all have an amazing weekend & week!
XO
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